The Art of Starting Over

Amber Alexandria
2 min readMay 15, 2020
Photo Credit: Erriko Boccia

Sometimes in life, we just need to start over. Scrap everything we’ve been taught was true and start anew. Liberating life changes are wonderful, but sometimes the process of getting started can feel quite overwhelming.

It doesn’t have to be this way. And it doesn’t have to be challenging. The art of starting over is very simple. And I break down the process in 3 very easy steps to follow below.

Step 1: Go Inward

How we create the life we want on the outside is by finding ourselves on the inside. Going inward is the journey of self-love. You can build your self-love by participating in journaling or meditation. Reading books, listening to podcast, or watching online videos on the topic of self-love will help as well.

Increasing your self-love will give you the ‘superpower’ of self-validation. Self-validation is when you accept your life experiences, beliefs, and feelings without having to justify why you think, believe, or feel this way.

This will allow you to move through life with less fear making you a more confident person. When you are a self-validating person you can make more clear life decisions that best serve your chosen path.

Step 2: Release

It’s time to let go of what is no longer serving you. This is the process of releasing all toxicity or life experiences that no longer elevate you. You do this by creating boundaries.

Boundaries are beautiful and wonderful. They allow us to live a more authentic life. It might not always be easy to set boundaries in place, but the end result will be worth it. And the more self-love you have the easier it becomes to create these boundaries.

Step 3: Step into the future

Embrace your journey and allow yourself to become who you’re meant to become. Don’t get stuck in the process of if you are making the right decision. You are ALWAYS making the right decision based on who you are at that given moment in time.

Going on your self-love journey and setting healthy boundaries will allow for clarity to flow into your life. Guidance will come. Think of the universe as going before you and straightening out the curvy path.

Follow the three steps above and watch your life unfold in the most beautiful way possible.